Several years ago when I heard that “Loneliness is the disease of this era,” I’d look around and claim it couldn’t be so. Now, I know better.
We have this mental picture of a lonely woman as that cranky, unlovable, unkempt woman who sits in her dark house all day, surrounded by boxes of stuff. Her blinds are closed. Her house reeks of litter boxes. She seemingly has no family and never married. We pity her.
Who Are the Lonely Women?
In actuality, the truth is that loneliness permeates all boundaries. The profiles of lonely women surprisingly have more in their ranks who are successful, beautiful, social, networked, savvy and powerful. These women are changing the world, starting businesses, raising children and seem to be connected to everyone on Twitter. And yes, many of them are married.
It doesn’t shock us as much when single women admit to feeling lonely. We still mistakenly make the connection that once she’s married, she will fill that lonely ache.
Unfortunately, as so many now know, simply getting married doesn’t cure the loneliness. In fact, as stated poignantly in “The Mirages of Marriage,” “The most intense and excruciating loneliness is the loneliness that is shared with another person.”
Research continues to reveal that when a man gets married, he feels more connected and reports less loneliness. The same isn’t as true for the female counterparts. Our sense of being known and cherished doesn’t always correlate to our relationship status.
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