I hate going to conferences late -- especially when the topic is sex. My colleague and I squeezed into the packed room at Savera and settled on the only two seats behind a giggling elderly lady in a pink dress and a poker-faced old man with a walking stick. The 26th National Conference on Sexology was in full swing in Chennai, where sex is sometimes a four-letter word.Hani Miletski, the 48-year-old sexologist with a Natalie Portman haircut and a zebra dress, was not quite an entertainer as a speaker, but her case studies were. She was speaking on "A day in the life of a sex therapist.' We missed her earlier part of the day, and by the time we reached the venue she was well into her late afternoon. "At 4 pm, I saw Sushma," the US-based therapist said, the presentation on the screen showing a crayon sketch of a sad-looking woman. Sushma an Indian in the US, was left with her grandma since the age of four. Her world revolved around her grandma and she had no social life. Now 38, Sushma has never had a sexual intercourse."At 5 pm, John walks in," Miletski continued. John, who has a prostate problem, is married thrice. He used to have intercourse thrice a week, each lasting 20 minutes with multiple orgasms. So, what's his problem? Well, the duration of his intercourse has been growing and now it stands at one hour. Miletski spoke about another client of hers, a 70-year-old man who felt ashamed to face his wife after he got aroused when a nurse was doing a rectal examination on him. "I told him that it is quite common for some men to get aroused when touched there. He went back a happy man and that was the shortest therapy I had done," Miletski said.What struck me the most was Miletski's comment that hers was a "lonely life." Before the audience could get ideas, she explained: "I mean an ideal sex therapist's professional life is a lonely one. You listen to the most intimate details of your clients' lives, but offer nothing about yours. Your only body contact with your client is a brief handshake."At coffee break, I chatted up Miletski. "Some cardiologists have heart problems," I started, "some dermatologists get rashes…" At this, Miletski interrupted me. "Oh, ok, you are a journalist… and you have a question about my sex life?" I politely replied "no," and put the question straight: "If a sexologist has a sex problem, should she treat herself?" Miletski's immediate answer was "I don't know," and I liked that honesty. She did think about it and answered it better a few minutes later: "It helps being a sexologist to understand one's own problem, but sometimes it is better to take the help of another sexologist."Later I found out that Miletski is an Israel-born American having a good practice in Bethesda, Maryland. She is the author of two books, Understanding Bestiality and Zoophilia; and Mother-Son Incest: The Unthinkable Broken Taboo Persists.Other findings of Miletski:* Boys have sex with buffalos in rural India* Urban women tutor dogs to have intercourse with them* A group of frequent flyers travel in search of stallions* 8% men and 4% women in the US have sex with animals
this Rafizi is a walking Wikileaks. Asange should employ him and get him to get the goods on everyone in every country. Not bad for a young Chico who keeps wetting his pants in school. Tak Kena lagi, as they would say, sudah Kena baru tahu, and BN/UMNO is best at this kinda of thing. Seems like he knows everything, what a Please expose the scandles of MCA leaders so that the Malaysians of Chinese orgin will know how MCA leaders were bought over by UMNOputras. Chua kid and can't help thinking: while daddy was busy with his mistress in budget hotels, was Mrs Chua getting her groove on with former North Korean boss, Kim Jong-Il? (Sorry Dean, MDThe one who claim to have 6 boxes to put BN behind bar is you frog friend who jump over to umno and now make a senator. He is a great manipulator who con both PKR and UMNO. He even con you.The problem with MCA is that its desperate to hold the attention of the public.They know that they are sinking and they are trying to grab anything to try to remain afloat. When it that situation its better not to struggle but keep quiet and maybe you might survive. Rafizi its better to tell all and let them sink so that you can take out the thorn from the flesh once and for all. in the interest of Selangor voters in general and Malaysians in particular,just reveal the MCA-Talam links.Chua Jr.has been shooting off his mouth alleging that the Selangor Govt.under MB YB Tan Sri Khalid has bailed out Talam and causing a GLC to carry extra-load of debt. Just Do It,Rafizi. All ordinary MCA members should leave that disgraceful party en bloc. No future for you buggers to hang on to all your 'paper tiger' leaders! Looking back, for the past 55 years MCA leaders have gone from bad to worse and the worst bunch are the current ones! There were a couple of good prospects like, Jui Meng and Ong Tee Keat but were 'back stabbed' by their respective merciless and corrupted opponents from within. Rafizi you have my vote to represent chinese. Come to think of it Malaysia is going towards multi-racial politics with the rise of PR. Malay, chinese, indian, dayak and kadazan can reprersent us regardless of our racial and religious creed. PR politicians are like medical doctor helping without asking you chinese malay etc. Csl morally does not fit to hold any position for what he has done. Karma says that he will lead mca to doom and his son cty shall see no win for him come this PR 13 after which he shall be exposed as an empty accountant self employed shouting many cheats cheap slogan to syok sendiri.,,same goes to all mca goons!PKR strategy director Rafizi Ramli has accused Prime Minister Najib Razak of favoring Thales, demanding an explanation as to why the French multinational company involved in Malaysia's disastrous purchase of two Scorpene submarines was allowed to enter three bids for the billion-ringgit Ampang LRT deal.
Najib is believed to have decided to award the project to the George Kent consortium, although it is the least-qualified of all the consortia to undertake the job. So far, no official announcement has been made although the Umno-controlled newspapers have already leaked the 'news' quoting unnamed high-level government officials.
Earlier this week, Rafizi revealed minutes from another meeting held by the Finance ministry procurement unit to show that Najib was in full control and had full knowledge of what was going on in the tender. The minutes signed by Najib showed it was the PM himself who led the decision to award the deal to George Kent.
But what will shock Malaysians most is how Thales was allowed to mount multiple bid through various consortia - a highly irregular practice and as Rafizi pointed out is against good practices and corporate governance.
French lawyer Joseph Breham, who is acting on behalf of Malaysian NGO Suaram, had revealed in May that French investigators found evidence showing that Thales had paid 32 million euros (RM144 million) to purchase secret naval documents from Terasasi, a company owned by Najib's close friend Razak Baginda.
According to Rafizi, Thales was involved in three out of eight shortlisted consortia in state-appointed consultant Halcrow’s technical evaluation report, namely, George Kent-Wijet-Thales, Colas-CMC-Thales and Samsung-LG-Thales.
“Every single rule was broken in order to give an advantage to Thales. Who else can make these instructions unless it was under the patronage of the prime minister?” Rafizi told a press conference on Friday.
“It reflects the close relationship between Datuk Seri Najib Razak and this company Thales since the Scorpene purchase."
Only Thales allowed multiple bids through various consortia - why?
Najib is believed to have decided to award the project to the George Kent consortium, although it is the least-qualified of all the consortia to undertake the job. So far, no official announcement has been made although the Umno-controlled newspapers have already leaked the 'news' quoting unnamed high-level government officials.“From the list of bidders, no other transport technology suppliers are allowed to send more than one bid, except for Thales,” said Rafizi.
He said the “favorable treatment” was against the usual “good practice” in a tendering process.
Rafizi has also previous shown documents from the Finance ministry's procurement unit informing Balfour Beatty-Invensys Consortium that it had won the tender due to its lowest bid of RM950mil.
The George Kent consortia has not made any comment yet but it is believed that the highest bid of RM1.45bil was submitted by them, while project owner Syarikat Prasarana Negara Bhd had recommended one of the two South Korean consortia in the running - PDA Consortium.
Secondary school friend
Listed on the Malaysian bourse, George Kent Bhd incidentally is controlled by Najib's friend from his secondary school days - Tan Kay Hock.
“The only expertise George Kent has is in the production water gauge meters. The company was earlier rejected because the company did not meet the minimum technical requirement for the job,” Rafizi told a press conference on Tuesday to reveal the minutes he had obtained from anonymous sources.
“I think it is a disaster in the making if a company that make water meters is offered a multi-billion ringgit LRT extension project."
The Thales-DCNS-Scorpenes link
Najib will have to convince his countrymen that the advantage given to Thales advantage was not linked to the RM7.3bil Scorpenes purchase that he sanctioned in 2002 and is now the subject of a corruption trial in Paris.
Thales owes a strategic stake in DCNS, the vendor of the two submarines. DCNS is the party accused of paying bribes of Malaysian officials including Najib to seal the Scorpenes sale.
Speculation is rife that Najib might now be trying to 'placate' DCNS by giving part of the Ampang LRT deal via George Kent to its owner Thales. Evidence given by officers of DCNS and Thales is crucial for the French investigative judge to decide whether or not Najib was directly involved.
The Malaysian PM faces a possible subpoena to take the witness stand in Paris. Failure to do so may result in him becoming a fugitive of the law as far as Eurozone countries are concerned.
High treason but only mere denial and no inquiry by the Malaysian authorities
Zahid Hamidi, the Malaysian defense minister, and other top naval chiefs have been quick to deny any state secrets had been sold, even before conducting a full probe. This has prompted criticism they were out to cover up for Najib, as the 'natural' reaction would be to scrutinize the French evidence as the alleged crime was serious - amounting to high-treason.
The complaint being heard in the French court was filed by Suaram after the Malaysian government refused to initiate any investigation into the controversial Scorpene purchase despite public outcry over the exorbitantly high price tag and unsuitability of the submarines for the local coastline.
If found guilty, DCNS may have to compensate the Malaysian people for the overpricing inflated by the bribes. It would also pressure the Umno-BN ruling coalition to finally call a public inquiry. If the French trial determines that Najib was among those who benefited from the illicit commissions paid by DCNS, he would have no option to resign.
Court documents submitted so far show a money trail for the alleged bribes that lead to Baginda, who has been accused of being Najib's proxy, and Umno, which Najib's ruling party.
As the laughter subsided, she continued: “I am really amazed. This PAS man has a special ability to see through clothes. I advise all the Wanita delegates to beware of him from now on.”
“Or maybe, this former Perak Mentri Besar has feelings for Kak Ijat. After all, she is the Malaysian Aishwarya Rai,” Habibah said, referring to the famous Bollywood star.
“All this shows the opposition are out of ideas and resorting to personal attacks,” she added to applause, both hearty and merry.
Habibah said Nudity always a pleasant surprise for men that Wanita was very popular with the rakyat and it was the cause of the opposition envy.
‘We have spent some years together, so now I know how he reacts in a particular situation. Our conversation doesn’t go beyond the daily routine and even the pleasure in the bedroom is an alien term’. Such situations are definitely not uncommon. Many people who are in long-term relationships do encounter this phase. So why don’t you plan some exotic surprises for your partner? Such that he’s taken off guard and left asking for more. 
Surprises need not necessarily be really pricey. What matters the most is your attitude, the way you show your concern and express your love towards your mate. Here are some innovative ideas…
Dare bare…If you can’t talk about sex, laugh about it. Everyone knows at least one sex joke, and everyone has laughed at many. I know an excellent sex joke, but I can’t write it here. Because sex is considered to be an intimate subject. So, to be able to laugh at that hilariousjoke of mine, you shall have to get intimate with me.
What is it with these rising crime rates against women? Gang rapes, child rape, molestation, eve teasing, female foeticide… Isn’t a society judged by the way it treats its women?
Out on the street, sex jokes are commonly referred to as ‘non-veg’ jokes. I wonder why? Probably because the concept of morality is related closely with the concept of puritan Brahminism, a race known for its vegan ways. Or probably because sex is as basic to human nature as food is. Everyone eats. Everyone f**ks. Bengalis are a funny race. We have a history of humour, touching on almost every facet of the funny. Sardonic, sarcastic, caustic, dry, witty, outrageous, exploitative, racial, blasphemous, clean.
The truth is, your boobs play an important role in pleasing both of you. These six moves will help you double your pleasure and ensure they’re not left out of the fun.
Men love it when their ladylove makes an extra effort to seduce their senses. All you need to do is to think out of the box!
Men love it when their ladylove makes an extra effort to seduce their senses. All you need to do is to think out of the box!
Almost half of young women aged 18 to 25 would rather have larger breasts than highintelligence and a third would readily swap IQfor bigger boobs, a new study has revealed.
Experts have held responsible the youngsters’ growing obsession with celebrity culture and the burgeoning market for plastic surgery.
The study, which has shocked women’s groups, also found that a quarter of those surveyed felt bigger breasts would make them feel ‘happier’.
And nearly 60 per cent of the respondents believed that men would be ‘more interested’ in them romantically if they had bigger breasts.
It comes in the midst of widespread concern about the pressures put on modern-day women through advertising and magazines.
“Women face now unprecedented pressures to focus on their body,” the Daily Mail quoted Kat Banyard from women’s group UK Feminista as saying.
“Industries that focus on the way women look are flourishing – and that means that from a very early age, women are taught that the way they look matters more than what they do.
“The consequences of this can manifest in eating disorders or extreme measures such as plastic surgery. These figures show that women still loathe their bodies on an industrial scale.”
The survey of 1,142 women by the discount website by www.MyVoucherCodes.co.uk aimed at finding out more about the attitudes young women hold towards brains and beauty.
In contrast with bigger breasts would attract more men, only 43 per cent thought that men would be ‘more interested’ in them if they had a higher IQ.
Researchers also revealed that about 40 per cent of the respondents would prefer to have a ‘slim figure’ than high intelligence, with many stating that it would make them feel ‘more confident’.
Almost the same percentage of people asserted that they would swap their IQ in order to be their ‘ideal dress size’.
When it came to relationships, most women felt men ‘valued’ intelligence in women, although two thirds said that they felt appearance was more significant when attracting a partner.
The same was true in the workplace, with almost half believing that being ‘attractive’ would also help a woman advance in her career.
Almost 80 per cent also felt that they were judged more on their looks than intelligence.
What is it with these rising crime rates against women? Gang rapes, child rape, molestation, eve teasing, female foeticide… Isn’t a society judged by the way it treats its women?
Instead of punishing offenders, I read an offensive news article stating that proposals were in place to send working women home by 8 pm. I disagree strongly. Women have as much of a right to work and live freely as men. Good governance is about effective policing, strong punishments as deterrents and swift sentencing to put away the rotten eggs of society. Regressive governance is about curtailing freedom and movements and right to equal work opportunity for women of the country.
What next, regress back to the era where women were only confined to home and hearth because they are supposedly safest there? I may sound too strong on this issue but men that victimise, oppress, suppress or violate women are not real men. And all delusions of grandeur must be stripped off them, not by keeping women off the streets but by making sure that these men are brought to book.
Similarly, any government that dictates women be given less than equal opportunity to work, party, or in any manner lead less of an equal life as their male counterparts need to be questioned and ridiculed for the same. If we truly believe in equality let’s not just stick to rhetoric, be it in the family, society or governance, and let’s show it by actions and by keeping our homes, society and streets safe by fighting for offenders to be taught tough lessons
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